Early in a relationship/marriage we listen with an intention to hear. We hang on every word and breath. We ask gentle questions that are meant to improve connection. If the relationship continues, we feel accepted. Eventually though, we stop hearing and revert to listening.

Surviving an Affair. This is not for the faint of spirit. With the right attitude repair work can begin immediately to save a marriage. The wounding marriage party must put their feelings aside and focus only on the feeling of their wounded spouse. Don't blame or bob and weave. Start the marriage repair right away with coming clean. 

As human beings we are all hard-wired to connect. When we feel that our attachments are solid, we are calmer and more confident. When we feel good, it's easier to give and receive love.