Surviving an Affair. This is not for the faint of spirit. With the right attitude repair work can begin immediately to save a marriage. The wounding marriage party must put their feelings aside and focus only on the feeling of their wounded spouse. Don't blame or bob and weave. Start the marriage repair right away with coming clean. 

What if we have it all wrong; setting our goals early in the hopes that when we accomplish these things, we’ll feel a particular way. Instead, what if we sat down and really thought about how we truly, deeply want to feel in the different areas of our life. 

As human beings we are all hard-wired to connect. When we feel that our attachments are solid, we are calmer and more confident. When we feel good, it's easier to give and receive love.