5 Languages of Love. Learn a New Language in 3 Minutes.

5 Languages of Love.

How to Become an Expert in 3 Minutes.

It’s that time of the year when love is celebrated and honored. It’s almost Valentine’s Day and the opportunity to express love is welcomed and embraced. Little prompts are all around us from cards to flowers to boxes of chocolates. 

What’s you’re go-to on Valentine’s Day to let your special person know you adore them? What types of things would really feel good to you on Valentine’s Day? A special dinner out or a handwritten note? Would it mean the world to you if your guy would take the evening and do some chores with you around the house, or maybe purchase a couple’s massage?  

One of my go-to assignments, for my couples on Valentine’s Day, is the 5 Love Languages quiz by Gary Chapman. Gary says we like to give and receive love in certain ways. He breaks these ways down into 5 LOVE categories. 

1. Words of affirmation

2. Quality time

3. Gifts 

4. Physical touch

5. Acts of service

Often, people assume that men fall into certain categories and women into other categories. But, through working with thousands of people in couple’s therapy, I’ve found this isn’t true. 

Once you know your top love language and you know your partner’s, it makes things much easier. You don’t spend as much time guessing at what would make them happy. You just focus on one of their top 2 love categories and suddenly you become an expert lover!

To learn your top Love Language, go to www.5lovelanguges.com and take the quiz. It takes 3 minutes and it’s fun to share the results with your love. 

Our love languages can change over time. So, I encourage my couples to retake the quiz every Valentine's Day. It’s a fun way to reconnect and remind ourselves how our love interest wants us to show up! Whether it’s a gift or a compliment, once we know we can always get it right.  

Make a date with your love on Valentine’s Day and take the quiz. 

Psssssssst: Valentines’s Day is more than an opportunity to express just romantic love. It’s a great opportunity to reach out to all the people we love and care about. Our kids, parents, best friends and our sweet pets. Tell them I LOVE YOU! BTW, your kids also have a love language that may not match yours, so while you're at it, take that quiz too!