You are Resilient
Have you ever noticed that some people bounce back from tough times easier than others? Some people seem to "roll with it" + their attitudes are sprinkled with humor or a positive outlook. They can find their way thoughtfully through a problem. They appear to be flexible. You turn to them in tough times because they always leave you feeling optimistic + they can see the silver lining.
This is resilience and we all have it. Some people feed it with fertilizer so it grows big and beautiful. Thoughtful that if they don't feed it, their resilience will wilt, they practice certain things every single day. You can practice these things too.
There are 9 pillars of reliance and at least one proven practice for improving + growing + strengthening your resilience.
Remembering who you are when you haven't seen yourself for awhile.
Start by recalling how you got through a difficult time in the time past. What strategies did you use? What did you do to "come up for air"? What story did you tell yourself? This is resilience. Now water + fertilize that in the days + weeks to come. You're on the right track.
Quick Take-Aways
9 Pillars of Resilience
Optimism
Altruism
Moral Compass
Faith and Spirituality
Humor
Having a Role Model
Social Supports
Facing Fear
Meaning or Purpose in Life
A Proven practice for improving resilience
Change the narrative
"When something bad happens, we often relive the event over and over in our heads, rehashing the pain. This process is called rumination; it’s like a cognitive spinning of the wheels, and it doesn’t move us forward toward healing and growth.
The practice of Expressive Writing can move us forward by helping us gain new insights on the challenges in our lives. It involves free writing continuously for 20 minutes about an issue, exploring your deepest thoughts and feelings around it. The goal is to get something down on paper, not to create a memoir-like masterpiece."
For more information on changing the narrative: https://positivepsychology.com/3-resilience-scales/
For more information on the pillars: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_science_backed_strategies_to_build_resilience